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My name is Lesli Hyland. In my fifty one years on this earth, my home and my heart have been graced with the company of twenty four dogs. Many came to me as seniors. All of them taught me something and helped determine the course of my life. I became a dog trainer because of them. I met my friends because of them. My husband and I are are forever bonded by our mutual connection to them. Currently, as a Dog Walker I have access to other people's dogs and I am allowed to experience their unique personalities. The dogs make me a better person by forcing me to closely examine my motivation, my actions and my choices. Everything I do affects their behavior, safety and happiness. It is an awesome responsibility. The dogs keep me honest.

Monday, April 20, 2015

EIGHT IS (more than) ENOUGH

April 2015
I just came across this half finished blog below.  I wrote it 6 months or so ago.  
Ah...such good intentions...
Let's see how much I actually accomplished!  Read the post and I'll dissect it in blue.

Thankfully my dogs all get along...That is my only criteria really for whether a dog can become part of our family.  But we now have EIGHT dogs of our own and a foster dog.  It is alot and each dog has his/ her own need for space and attention in order to feel safe, relaxed and loved.

That is REALLY HARD to provide with this many dogs and a life outside of dog care!

Okay...well Lupie and Mamcita have had a few spats and we are working on that.  The altercations are very context dependent so are easy at this point to prevent, but it is a serious situation that will require ongoing observation and evaluation. I am not oblivious to the fact that the added stress of a crazy Vizsla puppy and the foster dog may be contributing to the angst between the girls.  Thankfully Goose is growing up and see the good news below about our foster dog!

Lately I have been feeling stressed, overwhelmed and depressed.  I've blamed it on money issues...lack of structure in my daily schedule...my on going battle with these extra 10 pounds of belly fat...

Ha, ha, ha...still carrying the extra pounds!

But after some rough days inside my own head I've come to the realization that I am overwhelmed with the task of adequately meeting the needs of my dogs (never mind my husband, my students and myself!).

Seeing as I am stuck with myself and am not going to get rid of any dogs, divorce my husband or quit my job anytime soon...


Step 1:  Place the foster dog.
Easier said than done!  She is a great dog...in the right hands...and a potential disaster in the wrong ones. She needs to go, but I am NOT willing to place her in a situation I am not 100% comfortable with just to get her out of the house!  So...Step 1 may take some time.   Breathe...

Hooray!  Cassidy has her own family now and in spite of some bumps in the road is happy in her new life!  Phew! 

Step 2:   Set aside time for my husband
Friday night will be designated as "date night" in my new fall work schedule.  Our "date" will directly follow Red Dog Solutions' new PUPPY SOCIAL HOUR on Friday nights! I will also try VERY hard to put away my stupid smart phone at night!  Though that isn't very helpful if he doesn't put away his... :-) And we will sit down together to plan quick meals for the week.

Well...the Friday night Puppy Hour never really took off and with it our date night fizzled due to logistics...BUT my new Summer schedule has me off most weekends, so Brian and I should be able to get away more! :-)  Provided of course that I can develop some addition dog care giver options...
The phone obsession (Brian's and mine is an on-going battle)

Step 3:  Identify causes of dog stress at home (theirs, mine and Brian's!).  Eliminate as many situations
as possible.
a.)  Crazy Vizsla puppy (GOOSE) jumping all over other dogs and me when excited (feeding time especially).
b.)  Crazy senile Vizsla (TUCKER) barking ...repetitively...makes me wanna throttle him.
c.)  Intense excitement barking (TAWNIE and CITA) when they think I am leaving house or letting them out...or thinking about leaving the house ...or thinking about letting them out...(gotta love those herding dogs!)
d.)  Overly rough play between BIG Vizsla puppy and smaller dogs.
e.)  Feeling like there isn't enough of me to go around in the course of a day.

Management/ Elimination:
a.)  Feed first thing in a.m. to avoid dogs laying in office waiting like coiled springs for me to get up from computer to feed them. Crate/ feed Goose in office so he can be confined at the beginning of feeding time, which takes him out of the arousal level mix.
b.)  In general. take the extra time and steps to handle dogs one at a time, rather than en masse.  Make two trips to/ from car...let dogs outside one at a time etc.
c.)  Limit Goose's time with smaller dogs.
d.)  Use citronella bark collar proactively rather than reactively.  For the most part, I know when Tucker is going to bark.
e.)  Establish clear routines about departure so that Tawnie and Cita know whether they are leaving with me or not. (eliminate the Am I going? Am I going? craziness).

All of these issues still exist.  I honestly have not put the time into developing better/ different routines to decrease excitement levels.

Training/ Training tools:
a.)  Purchase ADAPTIL collar for Tucker.  Set up ADAPTIL diffuser unit in Goose's crate room.
Nope - didn't do it.

b.)  Increase exercise.
Yes with the weather changing they are all getting more yard time.  I have started playing fetch with Goose and Cita individually.  I began scheduling a run for MY dogs into my daily dog walking client schedule and insisting on it. 

c.)  Train - "Go to your house (crate)!" for feeding time.
I have accomplished this with Goose, but primarily because he is the biggest and craziest dog, plus he gets crated first!  Pure laziness on my part - the rest are still acting like idiots at feeding time. LOL

d.)  Train - "Enough" for Goose when he crosses the line from playing to bullying.
I have hollered at him (bad dog trainer!) and stepped in and physically stopped him, but no...I haven't actually trained ENOUGH as a cue using rewards.  As he matures it is getting better on its own to some degree and I am always finding other dogs for him to play with to remind him that he can't ALWAYS be big man on campus.

e.)  Increase Goose's tolerance of being restrained/ manipulated by his collar through rewards.
Yes I have worked on pairing treats and praise with leading/ pulling him by the collar.  
He resists it much less now.

f.)  Increase Goose's tolerance of being crated through desensitization.
Hooray!  Yes!  Goosey can tolerate the crate for 3-4 hours happily now.  In truth I simply gave up on it for a while, then reintroduced short periods of confinement with beef marrow bones when left alone and high rates of reinforcement when I was present. 

g.)  Better time management!
Hmmmmm....not sure I've accomplished that...the computer is a big time suck (damn you Facebook!) BUT my new schedule is designed to create extra time at Red Dog to get paperwork done and allow me time to train my own dogs. 

So, 6 mths later, why didn't I just delete that half finished blog and start over?  Alot of trainers would not admit to these failures in public!  How can we expect our students to do what we tell them to do if we don't do it ourselves?   
Well, the reality is that we (dog trainers and students alike) will not always do what we know we should do to make our lives better, nor to improve the behavior of our dogs.   
We are weak.  We get busy.  We get tired.  We are not perfect.  Shit happens.  

The important thing is to realize that our dogs are NOT to blame for our shortcomings.  They're just dogs being dogs.
The important thing is to NOT GIVE UP.  To try again.  To adjust our expectations and our goals to allow for small successes.  And to be inspired by those successes!

So here goes:
My new plan:

1.  Get Goose into a structured class environment to help me focus on him alone, away from    the group.  Train agility 3 days a week, now that it is spring and my agility field is ready for action!  This will provide Cita and Goose with more individual "MOM time" and provide extra exercise.

2.  Create departure routines  that make it easy for Cita and Tawnie and Goose to know if they are coming with me (sound familiar? Yup I will try again.)  Goose is really very good about waiting calmly at front door when I am leaving with him.  I created that behavior using a tether by the door.  I will do the same for Cita and Tawnie - promise!

3.  Fence an additional area of our yard to provide more environmental stimulation for my crew.  The area I have designated has brush, trees and open grassy space.  It is full of birds and chippies and butterflies in the summer.  The dogs will have limited access to it, keeping it special and novel.  It will double as a fun area for play dates for visiting dogs and an off leash potty area for agility students.  

4.  Take Mamacita and Lupie on walks together to improve their emotional relationship.

5.   Feed first thing in morning to avoid meal time anticipation (sound familiar?) 
I will try again to feed first... sit at computer and drink coffee after!!!  

Thanks for tuning in.  Love your dogs.  Love yourself.

Raising Goose - Birthday Boy

My baby dog turned a year old yesterday!  Hard to fathom.  Time passes so quickly, too quickly.  As a dog trainer time so often works against dog owners.  They get a puppy, who turns out to a bit shy.  They assume that the pup will grow out of it, but instead, as time passes by, the pup gets more and more worried.  By the time they contact a trainer the pup is usually growling at strangers and is well past the crucial socialization age. Time is one thing you do NOT have enough of with a developing puppy.  By the time Rufus is 6 mths old your ability to tweak his personality is gone.  Yes, you can still train him, still desensitize him to things and still make him comfortable with specific things (specific people, places, dogs etc), but you have lost your window of opportunity to change how he feels about new things in general.

Goose is well socialized.  He has regularly been exposed to alot of different people and dogs, some farm animals, a cat or two.  He has traveled to Boston, been on a beach, gone hiking in different places.  He has spent time away from me with friends and their dogs.

He is in a bit of a spooky stage right now, barking at people occasionally on hiking trails, but I am confident that his solid foundation of socialization will get him through that, provided I handle it properly (NOT correcting him/ rewarding calm and quiet instead) and continue to expose him carefully.  Without his good social foundation, my ability to get him through this stage would be very limited. 

Goosey is a wild child, as he should be at his age.  He LOVES to run and jump and act crazy.  He has good basic skills (sit, down, wait) and can respond reliably even when he is REALLY excited,  But he has zilch in the way of impulse control.  It will come with age.  For now he needs alot of reminders to act appropriately!

In truth, if Goose was an only child, he would be a calmer dog.  The chaos of an 8 dog household adds to his arrousal level without a doubt.  And the fact that alot of my other dogs are wee little things, means that his exhuberance can be dangerous.  He wants to play constantly and he is big enough to be a real pain in the ass to the smaller dogs!  The only time I REALLY get aggravated with the big dope is when he is too rough with them.  But it is not his fault he came into this crazy household!  In the end he will learn to play appropriately (safely) with dogs of varying sizes because he lives here.  And I need to be patient - again alot of reminders to counter his lack of impulse control and alot of environmental management to prevent it in the first place.  

He is really pretty gentle with the Chihuahuas, because I have limited his exposure and been very consistent about what he can and cannot do with them.  And truthfully they like to play with him, but are are pretty feisty when he gets too rough.  He is much more persistent with the mid sized dogs - Kenzie and Mamacita, because I have let them fend for themselves, so to speak!  Kenzie likes to play with him, so he pushes it with her constantly until she has REALLY HAD ENOUGH.  Cita also likes to play with him, but gets overwhelmed by him easily.  I need to intervene sooner.  James has made it clear that he doesn't want to play so Goose doesn't bug him anymore.   Goose will tease Tucker to play and occasionally Tucker (the old coot) will humor him.  But Tucker has dramatically disciplined Goose on several occasions, so Goose minds his Ps and Qs with the old guy.  Tawnie will groom Goose and likes to snuggle but has NEVER EVER EVER encouraged his advances toward play, so for the most part he leaves her alone.  As he grows up he will seek Tawnie out for companionship, but right now she's not as much fun as crazy Kenzie!

As I watch the relationships develop between Goose and his siblings it is glaringly obvious that what works with Goose (and every other dog on earth) is consistency.  He is over the top with Kenzie, because sometimes she lets him and he gets rewarded by play.  She is not consistent about her lines in the sand.  So he pushes because it sometimes works to get her to play.  Tuckers lines are clear. Tawnie's lines are clear. The chihuahuas lines are clear because I set the boundaries for them.  Mamacita is conflicted and unsure of what she wants from Goose. Chase me!  STOP chasing me!  Wrestle with me!  DON'T TOUCH ME!
She LOVES to play but then gets a little scared I think.  At that point she will over reacts to Goose's advancements.  I can almost read his mind "Geez, don't get your panties in a knot..." .  He's not sure what works with Cita, so he keeps trying until I intervene.  Its all about getting to play for Goose.

This consistency or lack there of translates into dog/ human relationships too.  Goose will sit when asked to at the door to the yard.  He will wait coming out of the car.  He will stay off of me when I come in the door.  He will release toys during fetch games. I have ALWAYS required those behaviors in order for him to access what he wants in those situations.

On the flip side...
He jumps on my friends. He jumps on my husband when he gets home from work.  He insists on being next to me on couch, laying right on top of another dog if it happens to be in his spot.  He crashes through the front door when we are leaving the house.  I have allowed him to get what he wants through obnoxious behavior in those situations.

Goose does what works - plain and simple. He's a simple creature! And so am I.  I am as lazy as the next person and am consistent when it is easy to be so or when it suits me.   So as we head into his 2nd year we will work hard to be consistent in more situations, so he knows what is expected of him.

We will continue to exercise, exercise, exercise to help curb his exhuberance. 
We will continue with careful exposure to the world.
And we will let him continue to be a baby dog...but maybe a little less of a brat!